Extraordinary Faith for Everyday Life
Reading updates from Layla Grace: http://laylagrace.org
Reading about Eliud and the 799,999 other people that live in a slum in Kenya: http://shaungroves.com/2010/03/sight-for-the-blind/
Sandra Bullock’s Oscar acceptance speech: http://mashable.com/2010/03/08/sandra-bullock-oscar-speech/
Why yes, I do have PMS, thankyouverymuch.
No, not together! Although the first does tend to follow the resolution of the second. I realized I completely forgot to blog last week’s Sunday Highlights about sex. This week was about conflict. So here we go!
Week 3 – Sex
Last week Chris went verse by verse through Chapter 3, 4 and 5. I highly recommend you listen to the podcast. I’ve read Song of Solomon so many times and never really understood what was actually happening, what was metaphors, etc. It finally is making sense!
The one thing from last week is “Marriage and sex are to be celebrated.”
A few talking points other than explaining the verses:
If you are single acting married, break up or start the relationship over. Create boundaries. Sacrifice today for a greater blessing tomorrow.
Week 4 – Conflict
Before marriage we have a heightened sensitivity to our own faults and lowered sensitivity to our partner’s. After marriage, you have a heightened sensitivity to your spouse’s faults and a lowered sensitivity to your own.
One thing – “If you want to live happily ever after, you will have to work for it.”
Fighting exposes your character. Healthy couples fight clean. The hammers – “I hate you” “I wish I never married you” are damaging and speaks to your own issues.
The biggest problem in conflict is the person wants to win the fight. The question you should ask yourself is do you want to win or are you more interested in reconciling? Even if you fight until you win, everyone loses. Your goal should be to reconcile the relationship. The goal is to live happily ever after but it takes work and sacrifice.
Negativity breeds negativity. Don’t go to people with issues to help fix your problems.
In chapter 6, we find out Solomon has 140 other women. The Shulammite woman is jealous because his attention has been diverted. The relationship is crowded. Needs can not be met in a crowded relationship. You may not be married to 140 women, but what else are you married to? Work? Hobby? Pornography? Children?
Return to where we were at the beginning. Look at our issues and resolve them. Have a heightened sensitivity to our own issues. Have a healthy self-knowledge and then do something about it. Jesus is the Healer. He can change you. Let Him execute justice. Even if your spouse does not deserve your grace, you extend it and let Him execute justice. Your responsibility is to show your spouse Jesus.
Check out both podcasts here. If you’re in the area, we’d love to have you as our guest! Next week’s sermon is on “True Love”. Can’t wait!
Sometimes I only wear clothes for the accessories.
Happy girl I was today.
Today we went on an adventure. The date kind of snuck up on us.
We got a little confused on the doors
But made it through
Walked somewhere…
…that had big buildings
and a really cool sculpture named Firebird
The building is brand new and modern and pretty
And has a really cool name
We sat from this view for 2.5 hours
Until the end…
…of Cinderella Ballet.
Walking out, we glimpsed the cast going downstairs for an autograph session. They didn’t look out of place at all.
The girls were a little excited to see them
If you can’t tell…
But the clock struck 12 and it was time to go home…
P.S. While I appreciate the talent we saw, apparently I’m not a fan of ballet. It’s the second one I’ve been to in Charlotte and yeah, not for me. However, seeing Lexi squee when Prince Charming came on stage was totally worth it.
So, wow, I just found out that I was nominated again for the Hot Blogger Calendar. I didn’t expect that! Now that I’m in the list of nominees, I’d LOVE to do it again. Going to New York with Dani and Heather was seriously one of the best times I’ve ever had. The trick is voting is ending soon. Please go vote!
In any case, I’m honored to be nominated and THANK YOU for whomever was responsible!
Me: Lexi, is today your make-up day at school from Wednesday when you were out?
Lexi: What? I get to wear make-up at school today?!
What a week! Kaitlin and I met Monday and then Denise and I met last night!
Denise and I met just a few months after I started onetreehillblog.com in 2007. We found so much in common with our thoughts and opinions of One Tree Hill, we became fast friends. Somehow I convinced her to start the OTH podcast and these days her podcast is the OFFICIAL OTH podcast and she’s running more podcasts than I can remember. On the flip side, she’s the one that encouraged Kaitlin and I to start up a podcast for Friday Night Lights. Like Kaitlin, she’s one of my best online friends and it was a pleasure to finally see her face to face.
She works for the women’s basketball team (among other things?!) at Western Carolina and they were in Charlotte for some games. I was happy to visit with her for a bit at her hotel. While there, we decided to do a vlog for OTHblog. I posted it there but I thought you might enjoy it as well.
We take Lexi to register for Kindergarten this fall at lunch today. In true second-child fashion, I’m not nearly as emotional or worried. Mostly because Lexi is not emotional or worried. She got so excited yesterday when she found out she’d get to go to Emma’s school today. She thought she’d be playing on the playground and eating lunch there.
Ok, got distracted writing this post. We are back from registering. All nearly a non-issue. She’s excited to start. She passed her tests with flying colors. I remembered a mom last year at Emma’s meet-the-teacher. She was relaxed and not asking a single question. She had two older children at the school and it was old-hat. I felt a little like her today.
Except when we walked out and Scott carried Lexi to the car. She hid her face in his shoulder to keep from the cold and grasped her new hair ribbons whipping in the wind behind his back.
My baby’s going to Kindergarten, ya’ll.