On Thursday at The Uprising I was so moved by the stories of redemption. I don’t know how but somehow you forget that there are people whose lives are dramatically changed by Jesus. You forget that some people WANT their lives changed. And it’s moving when you listen to someone tell their story of redemption. To hear them say I was there but now I’m here.
Pete Wilson talks in his book Plan B about the importance of authentic community when you’re in Plan B – that part of your life you didn’t plan or expect and usually is unwanted. But to have authentic community you have to be authentic. And sometimes that means getting out behind the mask we put in front of ourselves and connecting to someone with the same struggle. Sometimes you just need to know you’re not alone and for someone to say “Me too.” To say I’ve been there but now I’m here. And if Jesus changed me, He can change you.
I want to put myself out there today. To say “me too” to someone who might be reading this. Offer some sort of hope if you’re in Plan B in your marriage. Because I’ve been there and now I’m here.
- I know what it’s like to feel you’re not good enough
- To not like who you’re becoming
- I know what it’s like for every conversation with your spouse to end in an argument
- To have someone else tell you you’re beautiful
- To check out emotionally from your spouse
- To check IN emotionally with someone else
- To deceive
- To wonder if you married the right person
- To wonder what if
- To feel guilt of your sin
- To not feel guilt of your sin
- To not want to change
- To try to change
- To not be able to change
- To obey when the feelings aren’t there
- To fail
- To fail again
- To hope
- To change
- I know what it’s like for your husband to change
- To say goodbye
- To be forgiven
- To be desired and chosen by God
- I know what it’s like to be restored
If you are in the midst of that with your marriage, I don’t think those statements will take much explanation. And if those resonate with you right now can I just whisper a “Me too” to you? I’ve been there. I really have. But I’m here now. But only through the power of Christ. His ways and not my ways. God can restore you and can restore your marriage. I’d love to talk to you in the comments or even through email if you’re struggling. I won’t have all the answers but I might have some. And to be perfectly honest, I need a “me too” just as much as you.