Ah, my brain! Can I just say “I don’t know” publicly? Would that be ok with you? Because I don’t. I’ve tried to bury my head in the sand regarding Amendment One. I’m not a NC resident but I work there and I live just a few miles away so all my friends are ALL talking about Amendment One. I’ve even ignored Facebook to try to stay away from it *gasp*. I just can’t handle all the hate. So much hate. It’s what I referenced in my Broken piece this morning. And I wasn’t referencing homosexuals when I was saying “Broken people”. I was referencing mainly heterosexuals that can’t seem to be anything but hateful to someone who doesn’t agree with homosexuality. If you need to know where I stand go here and here. It will be no surprise. I’ve been called dumb (dumb, dumb, dumb), homophobic, bigoted, close-minded, backwards, blah, blah, blah. All nasty things. Can I just say I’ve NEVER called a gay person any nasty words? Ever. And yes, I have friends that are gay. We’re not all bigots, I promise but my patience is wearing thin on being bashed.
But my patience will not wear thin on standing up for what I believe. Because I know Amendment One is about a lot of other things besides legalizing same-sex marriages, but EVERYONE is talking about same-sex marriages, especially since Obama capitalized on the moment and put in his two cents.
If you’ve read the above two posts, you will see that I have taken time to search Scripture and wrestled in my heart about being gay. Can I just say I WANT it to be ok? I desperately want to look my Christian friend in the eyes and say go and do. Do whatever you want! But I cannot in good conscience agree with same-sex marriages. I just can’t. As I said in my post, if you are not Christian, go and have fun. Seriously. If you are not a professing Christian, do whatever you please. I’m not giving you permission, you don’t need it or want it, but I’m just saying I don’t hold people accountable to Christian things that aren’t Christians.
And AHHH there’s the rub. My friend said “I don’t agree that we should tell others what faith to believe, or force them to live on rules based on that faith”. However, as I said in my above posts, I WANT God in my legal system. When someone asks me to vote on gay marriages, I’m going to say I don’t agree. There is no separation of church and state. As my sister said on Facebook, I AM the church. I cannot “put my beliefs aside” when voting on an issue whose deciding factor is of a moral base.
BUT. I keep going back to that whole sticky separation of church and state. I put myself in another’s shoes. What if I lived in, say, Iraq, and I was not allowed one thing or another because of my Christian religion? Wouldn’t I want the government to allow me to do all the Christian things I want even if the main religion is not Christian? Do you see? When someone comes against Christianity, it’s different. Does that mean I should simply not live in Iraq knowing Christianity would not be well-accepted? I DON’T KNOW.
And that’s my problem. I know I argued we are “One nation under God.” but is enforcing our Christian morals on everyone, even though we allow all types of religions here, the right thing? Should everyone not Christian just leave America then? Well, no! I don’t believe that at all!
Some say we’d be losing God’s favor. Would we? Shouldn’t we already have done that with all the rest of the stuff that is allowed? Shouldn’t we then push that the only reason for divorce is adultery? Why are we not screaming about that? Let’s get real folks, we’re not being consistent. You only have to flip on CNN to see we really should have lost God’s favor a long time ago. Thank God He’s so patient, forgiving, graceful and loving.
But if truth is truth, then it’s truth FOR ALL. It’s not truth if it’s not. Shouldn’t I then be required to always do what I can so that truth is followed?
All I know is this issue is splitting the church, splitting friendships and dividing a nation. We cannot simply put our heads in the sand. As I said before, BOTH SIDES need to learn some grace. Lots of grace. I will tell you I will not treat you differently because you are gay. I will (and have) had a cup of coffee with you and talk to you for hours. I will love you because you are you. I believe God loves you because you are you. We would do well to read posts like Justin’s that cause us to just stop all the hate and have true conversations and dig deep and love well.
I’m here to say I don’t have the answers to how religion and politics go together. I’d like to tie a pretty bow on this and settle on the left or right. But all I can tell you is this:
God loves you
He didn’t make mistakes when He made you
He will always give you what you need to withstand temptation
I will love you no matter what
I have no idea how to handle state rules when it comes to same-sex marriages
Will you love me even though I don’t have the answers? Will you love me when I don’t agree with what you do or what your son does or your cousin or your brother? I hope you do because when you mess up or your brother messes up, I’ll still love you and so will God. We have to get to that point. When we all are lost, there’s grace. It’s the only way.