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Book Review: Why Holiness Matters by Tyler Braun

August 17, 2012 by Amy 2 Comments

Why-Holiness-Matters Perhaps I’m sounding like a broken record, but I read a book this week that came at just the right time. 

After finishing Grace for the Good Girl the word “holiness” kept rolling around in my head.  I’m looking back in my journal on my desk as I type and I wrote “holiness Hebrews 12:14” last Monday but never had the chance to do any research beyond that one verse. 

The two seemingly opposing forces that always seem to collide for me is this idea of living the non-perfect, non-good-girl, non-people-pleasing life and yet also fulfilling Jesus’ call to be holy.  How do I do both?

 

So with that background, I was more than happy to accept a review copy of Tyler Braun’s new book Why Holiness Matters.  Why Holiness Matters was written specifically to reach Millennials, a generation of people that are seemingly hesitant to even talk about holiness, much less live it out.  While I might consider myself just outside the Millennial generation, I found myself challenged and refreshed from this book.

Why Holiness Matters was a great teacher and reminder first of what holiness is and is not. As Tyler says, “Holiness is not new behaviors.  Holiness is new affections.”  He expands a few chapters later, “The model Christian is not the perfectly tidy man or woman. The model Christian is one who continually seeks after God in the midst of mess, wading through the murky and muddy waters of life scouting after the Divine.”

 

And why is holiness so important?  As Hebrews 12 indicates and Tyler says, “Being around a truly holy person helps us catch a glimpse of Jesus through the window of their lives.”  I think this idea is so lost with the upcoming generation.  If we are not a people set apart, the next generation will never know what Jesus looks like. 

What I love though is he says this is not a call to perfection.  It’s a call to affection.  Holiness is an outcome of our relationship with Christ. 

As a perfect example, in the Values chapter, Tyler talks about traditions that previous generations have held tightly to like modesty.  Millennials would say we have freedom but Tyler circles back and explain that it’s not just a checkbox to mark off.  As he says, “By valuing modesty we are essentially choosing to live humbly so that our lives may reflect our Father instead of pointing to ourselves.”  Being holy is an outcome of a relationship not a standard of perfection.

The chapter “Community” has such an important message for Millennial Christians. More and more are believing that community is not important and Sunday morning church is a thing of the past.  Again, many see it as a checkbox but it’s so much more.  I wish I could just paste in that whole chapter but here is an excerpt:

Throughout the Bible God refers to His people as a holy nation. No doubt the Bible often refers to holiness in individual ways but what is never lost to God is individual holiness being formed in light of the community. God cannot fully exist without the community of persons within His being, just as we cannot fully exist without the relationships that form our community. It is mutual friendships with one another through < pursuing continue to us allows that friendship the is it and us, bind>

The last two chapters on mission and artistry were all a call to holiness that the Millennial will appreciate.  Millennials do missions and art well and Tyler does a great job of reminding the reader that behind those must come a message of the Gospel.

While the book’s core audience is the Millennial generation, I think we all would do well to read and remember our call to holiness.

 

From a writing perspective alone, Why Holiness Matters was such a pleasure to read.  I love Tyler’s writing voice and his stories were shared with clarity and honesty and yet stayed on point.  Even though our stories are quite different, I still found him relatable on many levels.  The outline and pace were perfect and I found myself running back to my Kindle at every opportunity to finish, something that doesn’t happen often with non-fiction books.  I finished just last night and already have plans to read it again.  I can’t recommend Why Holiness Matters enough.

 

I received a copy of Why Holiness Matters in exchange for this post but all opinions are my own.  And I mean it—you need to get this book!

Filed Under: Book Review

Bow

August 16, 2012 by Amy Leave a Comment

Thanks to Brave and camp, Emma has this happening around the house.  Watch out, neighbors, just watch out.

 

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I think I owe Emma a thank you.  Hello, sexy man with a bow and arrow.

Filed Under: children, friends and/or family

The BBB Method: How To Clean Your Pool {On Your Own with Grocery Store Products}

August 15, 2012 by Amy 4 Comments

How to Clean Your Swimming Pool with the BBB Method using Grocery Store Products

With September around the corner, you might think this is an awful time to talk about pool maintenance and I’d probably agree with you except that many pool owners are SICK of their pools right now and I’d like to offer some help in their weakest moment.

The pool is turning green AGAIN.  The water is cloudy AGAIN.  You haven’t seen sparkling water EVER.  And worse, you’ve dumped half your earnings at the local pool store this summer.  If that’s you, then LISTEN UP!

Getting Desperate

We’ve had our above-ground pool probably 5 years or so.  We opened our pool mid-May this year.  I always have a hard time getting the water clear so I wanted an extra head start.  I started going to the pool store 2-3 times a week.  They’d check chemicals and I always had $50-100 worth of chemicals to take home.  They would always say if it doesn’t clear up in 2-3 days, come back, so I did even when I followed their instructions to a T to no avail.

Four weeks later in mid-June, most of the green was gone but the water was never clear even though the pool store guys kept telling me the numbers were perfect.

Finding Help

I was so frustrated, I hopped on Google and soon found myself on poolforum.com begging for help (here’s my original thread).

After reading about all of their success, I officially switched our pool to the BBB method.  The B’s stand for Bleach, Borax and Baking Soda.

How to Clean Your Swimming Pool with the BBB Method using Grocery Store Products

The BBB method means, ALL our pool’s chemical needs are taken care of by grocery store ingredients and not unnecessary, expensive pool store chemicals.  Just a few weeks later, I had clearer water than we’ve ever had it.

I haven’t been to the pool store now in two months and my pool is perfectly balanced and respectfully clear.

 

The BBB Method

 

I’m not going to attempt to teach you the entire system but give you an overview.

 

How to Clean Your Swimming Pool with the BBB Method using Grocery Store Products

 

The first step is to buy yourself one of these Taylor test kits.  I know it looks all science-y but I promise, if you can count to 20 you can do this.  It’s kind of pricey, but if you’ve been going to the pool store regularly, you can handle pricey and I promise you will get every single cent back you pay for this.

The instructions that come with the kit are super easy and it’s literally just putting water in a tube and then counting drops of chemicals into the water and noting them.

The main goal each day is to keep your chlorine at a target level.  Your target level is determined by the amount of CYA (cyanuric acid), which is also measured in your kit.  There’s a handy chart over here to tell you your target Chlorine based on your CYA.

Once you have your CYA, then based on your pool size, you find out how much bleach will raise your water 1 ppm.  So, in my case, I know that 1 Liter bleach of will raise my Chlorine level by 1ppm.  So, one gallon of bleach will raise my chlorine 4 ppm.

At first, I would test every night and morning to see how much bleach I needed but I’ve found it is very normal that I lose about 4ppm every day from the sun and activity so my regular chore is to pour 1 gallon of bleach in the pool at night.

That’s it!

We spend about $15 a WEEK on bleach and the best part is I don’t have to go to the pool store!  We just pick some up at Walmart when we’re there!

More Numbers

Now, as you know there are more numbers the pool store looks at.  pH and Alkalinity are two of them.  Those can also be adjusted using simple chemicals.

Your pH target is 7.2-7.8 and you can raise it with Borax—yes that stuff in the laundry detergent aisle.  I’ve only had to do that twice this summer and it only takes 1 cup of it at a time. pH is lowered with Muriatic Acid from Lowe’s/Home Depot but thankfully I haven’t had to mess with that all summer.

Your Target Alkalinity is 120ppm but it doesn’t change much and I haven’t had to mess with that all summer.  It’s easily raised with simple baking soda.

That’s the basics but you can read more here.

Lessons Learned

It’s definitely been a different summer with our pool and here’s a few things I learned:

  • Trust the fine folks at poolforum.com.  They are the true heroes here.  If you just get the kit, post your issue and numbers and then commit to BBB method, they will stick with you until your water is clear.  I still can’t believe it’s all free.
  • Once you stick with them and read other posts, you’ll see the trends and start to understand what they’re doing. Once you know your targets and how much you need, it’s easy to maintain yourself.  It’s just as easy as reading a thermometer and giving your child Tylenol if it’s too high.
  • The pool store chemicals raise numbers that you don’t need it to raise.  For example, your standard powder chlorine (pool geeks are dying at my naming) also raises your CYA levels.  Target CYA is something like 40-50 so you could be putting chemicals in there that you don’t need.
  • Always, always take the steps out at the start of each pool season.  We regret not doing it every time.
  • Change your filter’s sand. This can really hinder your pools ability to clear your water.
  • Get yourself a skimmer sock.  It saved us from a ton of backwashing and annoying basket-cleaning.  I also make this a daily task. It’s not hard and so worth it.
  • Most of all, like many things, no one cares about your stuff more than you.  Take control of your pool and take care if it daily.  This really isn’t a problem with the pool store, but the understanding that it needs daily care from US as owners. Understanding how to care for it daily without trips to the pool care specialist is paramount.

I can’t tell you how happy I am to be spending less money and less time with more results and more appreciation for our pool.

You can get started at the forum or find them on their newly launched blog,  Facebook or Twitter accounts.  I’m not being compensated for this post, just want fellow pool owners to find the same success!

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More Than You Can Handle

August 14, 2012 by Amy 5 Comments

After an hour-long conversation over coffee, two ladies shuffled around their table to leave and the louder woman said, “I know there’s a purpose, I just don’t know what yet.  You know that saying ‘God never gives you more than you can handle?’”

The other lady laughed as they walked out the door and said, “Yeah, sometimes I wonder if we should just be weaker.”

That quote has always bothered me.  ‘God never gives you more than you can handle.”  I guess I get what that quote is supposed to get at, but sometimes, I’m afraid it communicates the wrong idea.

Maybe it’s just me, but from what I can tell, God ALWAYS gives you more than you can handle. 

In fact, I think maybe the point of our circumstances is to show us we can’t handle it. 

And maybe it’s just me, but knowing ahead of time I’m not smart enough, strong enough, patient enough, wise enough or loving enough frees me up from the worry of how to get through it.  It’s only weak little me through Christ that handles anything.

Filed Under: spiritual stuff

Summer of 7 Recap

August 13, 2012 by Amy 1 Comment

Summer of 7 is officially over and I’ll be honest–I believed there was a good chance Summer of 7 was going to include a lot of suffering with minimal immediate impact and no long-term impact.  But, looking back over June and July I see God absolutely all over it.  Even with my mustard seed faith, He showed up.  Summer of 2012 will go down as one of my favorite summers.

Today, I wanted to remember what God has done.

He taught me that He gave His best, not leftovers, and we should too.

He showed me how fear and control played into my stress and reminded me to LET GO.

We purged, purged, purged the house and found a few trigger points.  My bookcases and closet are especially thankful. A few weeks later, Dani and I used the excess to fuel a Garage Sale for Orphans where $1,000 was raised.  Have I shown you these photos yet? 

 

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Me and Dani

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The kids ran the snack table and accepted donations 

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 IMG_9926-001Lots and lots of people turned out to make this a success 

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Summer of 7 organizer, Katrina, came by!

In clothes week, God absolutely shook me to the core on clothes and makeup and reminded me of my 1,000 foot view of how we should dress. 

God specifically provided for me in clothes week for my grandfather’s funeral.

He opened my eyes to “Waterfall Purchases” that I continue to pinpoint as we shop in all sorts of categories.

Spending week rocked me as He gave me a picture of being a Giving Tree and taught me that he blesses us to bless others and will continue to do so.

Waste week was a bit of a bummer but did I mention we did end up getting a compost bin the week after and have been ecstatically composting away?

In media week, he asked for a sacrifice but then provided a ram. We cut off DirecTV and soon followed with our phone bill so we could give that money for good every single month.

Even more in the last week, He tied together Grace for the Good Girl and Summer of 7 and showed me some yucky junk still going on in my heart and taught me He’s in the margin and continues to challenge me to create more margin.

 

Whew.  What a summer.  God is good.

 

To Katrina, thanks for organizing Summer of 7 and for coming to our yard sale and driving me to Greensboro and all your support.  I’m glad to call you friend after this summer.

To Jen Hatmaker, thanks for your 7 months of sacrifice and the hard work of packaging it into a book.  Oh, and all your Olympic tweets this summer.  It’s all been such a blessing.

To you guys reading and my fellow Summer of 7ers, thanks for reading all the words this summer.  The comments and emails and tweets are worth more than gold.  Thank you for traveling this road with me.

Filed Under: friends and/or family, spiritual stuff, Summer of 7

Grace for the Good Girl and Summer of 7 #worldscollide

August 10, 2012 by Amy 4 Comments

Irony hangs thick as I write this post.  The good girl in me wants to share this post and talk about how Grace for the Good Girl has helped and yet the good girl in me also doesn’t want to share my vulnerable side and have to say I don’t have it all figured out.  Bear with me.

Good girl.  It’s a label I’ve carried as long as I remember.  So when Emily Freeman announced her book Grace for the Good Girl last year, I knew I needed to read it.  But honestly?  I had thought I was mostly over my good girl issues. 

Like books are wont to do, this book sat on my bookshelf until it felt like the right time to read it.  Finally, this summer when Emily announced a summer book club for Grace for the Good Girl, I felt like it was time. 

I’ll be honest and say I read it at arm’s length.  I had a hard time relating to the masks she described.  At the end of the book, I was frustrated there wasn’t a 12 step program to fix my good girl tendencies that I did recognize.  Clearly I wasn’t getting it.

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Last week for my media fast I was hit hard with how and why I use social media in particular.  I saw a bunch of ugly when I wrote it all down.  I’m still dealing with all the people-pleasing mess.  More than anything though I realized that the lack of media equaled margin.  Margin for God to speak.  I wrote in my journal:

I shut off each switch: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest.  Each turned to off and unbeknownst to me, it was the on switch for God.  God talks to me all the time but this switch was a permission slip to go into the halls of my heart and walk, showing me doors I wouldn’t have seen before, close some, open some.   Why did I wait, I wonder in the quiet.  If God is waiting here in the fast, the sacrifice, am I really sacrificing all the other times?  Has God been inviting me to the feast and I’ve settled for the famine?

From there, I pondered the balance between silence and social media.  I still don’t have the answers but it was clear to me that the lack of media = margin.

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On the Thursday of my media fast, I attended Emily’s book club meeting at her church in Greensboro.  She told her story, some of what was in the book but other that was not.  In those 30 minute or so, through glassy eyes I completely connected with Emily’s good girl story.  I knew it was mine too and I still have issues.  My good girl tendencies aren’t a thing of the past.  I also realized how funny Emily is.  I hope you all get to hear her speak or meet her one day so you’ll see.

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When I got home, I reread almost the whole book.  In some strange way, I was reading it with a new voice, with new eyes and a new heart.  I realized that 12 step program is a one step at a time program and led by the Spirit.  And for me, I needed more margin for that.

In one fell swoop, Summer of 7 and book club collided.  It was almost as if both efforts had been orchestrated by some great planner or something *cough cough*. 

I had to get rid of the excess of media so I could have more margin to live by the Spirit and not be dictated by my feelings and people pleasing ways. 

The hard part is I’m not there yet. I haven’t figured out a balance.  I still try to manage and control.  I still people-please.  I don’t have it all figured out.  But I took a step.  And that’s something.

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If the phrase “good girl” or “people pleaser” has ever applied to you, I’d recommend Grace for the Good Girl for you.  And if you have a teen or young adult, watch out for Emily’s teen and young adult version next month, Graceful.

To Emily, I know what it’s like to bear all your ugly mess so from one recovering good girl to another, let me get in line and give a heartfelt thank you.

 DSC03130 Me and Emily in Greensboro at her home church

As for Jen and Summer of 7, I’m planning a separate wrap-up post to see all that God has done this summer!  Stay tuned!

Filed Under: Book Review, spiritual stuff, Summer of 7

How to Get Rid of Your Phone Bill {and keep your phone}

August 9, 2012 by Amy 6 Comments

Three days have passed since we cut off DirecTV.  Lexi has mentioned missing one show on two occasions.  Scott hasn’t cried over Megan Kelly yet.  I haven’t turned on the TV except to watch the Olympics.  Basically, what I’m saying is, we don’t miss cable. 

That’s not to say that we’ve cut out TV from our lives because oh my goodness, my kids love Netflix.  We rented Redbox this week.  Scott has listened to FOX News on XM Radio every evening.  “I can’t see Shep,” he pined last night as Shepard Smith’s show came over the XM Radio base in the living room.

I’m so in love with the idea we don’t have that bill this month that even if the Gator Boys and Turtle Man joined forces, they couldn’t convince me to turn cable back on.

In fact, my attention has turned to our phone landline. 

The main problem with getting rid of our landline is I am just on too many conference calls for work anymore.  Just last week, I counted 800 minutes dedicated to phone calls.  Unless I move to an unlimited cell plan, there’s no way that’s working.  Also, cell phones are known to drop calls and carry too much static.

I tried a VoIP phone a few years back but we really couldn’t make a go of it.  The cost of the service just wasn’t low enough to make it worth it at the time.

However, a lot of progression has been made in the last few years.  One thing external to the VoIP technology itself is a lot of people have been dropping landlines as more and more people have been getting cell phones and relying on texting.   It’s normal to not be in the phone book.  It’s normal to have to call a long distance number for someone’s cell phone.  It’s normal to make play dates through Facebook and email.  It’s normal for people to call your cell phone first and home second.

I wanted to get rid of our landline but still needed an option for my conference calls.  Last week I found out about this OBi device and immediately knew it was going to be our answer.  Haha.  Answer.  Get it?

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The OBi device hooks to your router and then sits in between that and your regular telephone.  You sign up for a Google Voice account with a new telephone number and register it with OBi.  When people call you on your new Google Voice number, it comes through your OBi device and rings to all your regular phones.

The best part?  After the initial cost of the OBi device for $50, your phone service is FREE as long as Google Voice keeps it that way!

The only downside I can find is people calling us locally will have to pay long distance since Google Voice did not have a local number for us.  However, like I said, many folks have switched to using cell phones with long-distance to call and we still have our local cell numbers for people like Scott’s grandmother that don’t have a cell phone.  Oh, and of course, if your Internet goes down, your phones go down.  Again, though, cell phones to the rescue.

I’ve gone through one work day with the device and so far, so good.  No one commented on the change except my manager who knew I had switched and he said the sound was good.  He does all of his calls this way and I’ve never known him to have trouble.  Oh, and my mom did notice my caller ID is showing up as a different city but with a simple explanation, I think that can be overcome as an issue.

I think this is an awesome option for those of us without unlimited cell phone plans and yet need to be on the phone for many hours.

I haven’t made the call yet but if this keeps up, we’re saying goodbye to our phone bill!

 

Updated to add: If you want this box to work for the entire house, you need to put the line from the wall into the Phone plug on OBi instead of the Line plug.  We then had to get a splitter for the Line plug that so we could also hook up our office phone to the same place so that phone would get service.  The Line plug will then be empty.

Filed Under: what i did today

Marriage, Broken and Beautiful

August 8, 2012 by Amy 6 Comments

Have you seen this photo yet? 

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It’s been making it’s social media rounds and it’s just wow. *sigh*  Check out the full album here.

It’s especially sweet to see because today Scott and I are celebrating 14 years of marriage.  It was a sweet day.  A sweet, sweet, memorable day. 

 

What I would say to that couple and me, 14 years ago would be this: 

It’s gonna get hard.  I know you’re nodding your head but it’s way harder than you think.  You’re going to say mean things and think meaner things and want to get violent and walk away.  You might love someone else and be just fine with not kissing him all day. 

I know you can’t imagine that because right now because you’re saying We’re different.  It couldn’t happen to us.  But really, you’re going to wonder if you were feeling sane on your wedding day when you said I do and you’re going to wish you’d thought a little harder.

But.

Hold on.

If you just do it God’s way and forgive and assume the best and follow the golden rule and kiss anyway, the joy on the other side is a love you can’t even imagine right now.  It’s as beautiful as a groom crying over his bride but soul deep.  It’s a different beautiful that can’t be manufactured because it’s not made of new, but of all the broken pieces taped and glued together. 

And you’ll see all the pieces are really glimpses of God.

That one piece where you loved someone else and he kept loving you anyway.

That one piece where you were mad and yelled and he kept loving you anyway.

That one piece where you ignored him and he kept loving you anyway.

That one piece where you thought about walking away and he kept loving you anyway.

Marriage is forgiveness and faithfulness and love at its best and worst.  I hope you experience every piece.

 

To Scott, thanks for loving me anyway.

 

If you haven’t read my book Entangled, which is one big broken, beautiful piece of our marriage, I’d love to offer some hope in your broken.  Use code 14 here and get the PDF free.

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