Marriage, Fashion and Healing

I couldn’t call this simply a weekend recap.  So much stuff this weekend!  If my last few weekends have been quiet and around-the-house type weekends, the last 3 days have been quite the opposite.  Each day we had something pretty big and I can’t wait to tell you!  Hang on, because this is a long one!!


MarriedLife Live


Photo Feb 10, 7 59 50 PM

Friday night Scott and I attended the MarriedLife Live event at our church.  It was less conference and more a night out for married couples in the church.  We had a live band, dessert and coffee and we did hear from our family pastor.  He talked about seasons of marriage and how some bad seasons tear couples apart and others are drawn together.  To avoid the former, we should store up in the good times, just as Joseph did in Egypt, knowing a famine was coming.  I felt like this was especially appropriate for us as the last year or two has generally been a good season for our marriage but I know the adoption will test us.  Right now is the time to build up our marriage, not only when we’re trying to salvage it.

We also did an exercise where each of us had to fill out what we wanted each other to do and say at four times during the day: morning, saying goodbye for the day, saying hello and going to bed.  I have to say it was eye-opening.  We rarely do anything like that and really appreciated knowing what Scott expects and desires.


Be Red Hot


Saturday morning I attended the Be Red Hot Women’s conference at Dani’s church to support her as she led a break-out session.  I was completely blessed by the main speaker Branda Polk.  The conference was a diving board off the verse about not being lukewarm but either hot or cold.  We want to be red hot in our faith.

One thing she hit on that I hope she doesn’t mind that I share is the thought that the Bible says we ought to do all things unto God. But how do my menial tasks mean anything to Him?  Isn’t it only big people doing big things for God that He treasures?  She likened it to our children picking dandelions and giving it to us as a gift of love.  Practically, they are giving us a weed but because it is done unto us in love, it is a treasure.  Isn’t that an awesome thought?

Dani rocked her fashion session.  She started out speaking to the heart of the matter.  Does God even want us to spend time on how we look?  Yes!  He cares about all things and the way we present ourselves on the outside can say something about what He’s done on the inside.  It also says something about how we feel about the people around us.  I know Scott always notices when I dress up more for work than I do him.  That’s sending a message, true or not, that I care more for what they think than what he thinks.  However, if our vanity and pride are keeping us occupied and unable to give like He requires, it’s a problem!


(top right photo, credit to Sherry Smith)

She also went over the top trends for the year, how she builds her closet and took time to dress up a few folks with accessories she had bought.   I even got to help on stage for a hot second to share her Sneaky Jacket Trick.  She did a fabulous job and I think everyone was ready for a full day conference just with Dani.  I know if there is anything I know about styling, it is all from her instruction over the past 14 years we’ve been friends.  Those blue shoes I have on in that pic are results of an email from Dani…"buy these and this is what you wear with it” (that yellow shirt is my one of my Old Navy shirts)!




Fast forward through Saturday family time, Sunday church, dinner and nap and we headed to my parents’ and sister’s church to hear my sister give her testimony.  One day I want to take the time and give you all the intricate details about what happened but the gist of it is this. 

Heather has had a sleeping disorder her whole life.  Without medication, she always wanted to sleep.  Like, she would go to bed at 7 on a Friday night, get up at 1 the next afternoon and then could take a nap at 4.  She finally was diagnosed at 20 and got some pills ($600 a month!) that would keep her awake all day.  However, my mom would have to call her every single morning over and over and OVER to get her to answer the phone long enough for her to take the pills so she would wake up an hour or two later.  It was exhausting and frustrating. 

During the past few years, she had also started playing World of Warcraft video game and found herself addicted.  Addicted to a video game?  Yep!  I remember having the girls’ family birthday here at the house the year before last and she came in with her laptop, hooked it up and was playing through the birthday party.  She was playing every chance she got. 

Well, her church did a 40 day fast last January and God called her to fast her video game.  She did and as she described it, went through physical withdrawals.  Towards the end of the 40 days, God was calling me to do the Daniel Fast (I mention Heather’s healing vaguely in the post).  I had two different dreams about her just days before I started and I knew that I was to fast and pray for Heather.  Heather had given me her laptop so she wouldn’t play it and I prayed over her laptop during the fast.  Yes, I laid hands on a laptop!  I can’t tell you the power I felt when I touched it.  My heart broke and my spirit was completely burdened. 

Three days before the end of her 40 days and Heather woke up on her own at 5:30am.  The next day she woke up again.  The next day was the end of the fast and God told Heather not to take her pills anymore.  That same day, as I closed my fast, God told me that Heather was free from her video game if she chose to be.  He wouldn’t force her, but if she wanted to walk away, she was free.  It’s been 352 days now and she hasn’t take a pill and she is free from her addiction to the game.  God be praised!  It’s been amazing to watch her flourish in the last year and I’m so thankful for God’s healing and Heather’s decision to obey.


So, wow!  Gold star if you read all that!  My heart is so full from the weekend. God is awesome and my church, family and friends are more than I could ask. 


  1. What an incredible weekend!

  2. Whoa. So much to comment on, but I’m most captivated by your sister’s testimony. A couple of things that stand out to me for my own prayer life are these phrases:
    “God told me that Heather was free from her video game if she chose to be.”
    “…and Heather’s decision to obey.”
    Choose and obey. I keep going back to that last paragraph and thinking about an issue for which I’ve been praying. I’ve been so frustrated thinking that God hasn’t answered me, isn’t helping me, and I just can’t figure out why I continue to struggle. I think I may have just found my answer. I’ve been looking for healing & a miracle in possibly the wrong way. THANK YOU to & Heather so much for sharing your experiences with God. I need to pray to be freed from this issue & to choose to obey His instruction.

    Most importantly, I’m so happy for your sister! What an incredible story and what a joyous relief she must feel. Please share my thanks to her, Amy and my best wishes!

    • Ally, so good to hear. Thanks for sharing.

    • Heather W. says:

      awww thanks Jen!!! Your comment makes me wanna cry all over again. God is good and one of the things that I had wished I had said specifically last night is that after my healing God told me specifically that He healed me because of my obedience. Since last night I keep running my story through my head and I keep thinking to myself how my addiction to my video game had NOTHING to do with my sickness and yet he used my obedience with that to bless me in another area of my life. And what amazes me even more is that I continued to struggle with my gaming addiction well after my healing and the devil used that as an area to bring me shame. But I’m here to testify that God has released me of that as well (which again came down to a decision *I* had to make)!! He is so.good!