The Power of Thoughts, Entanglement and an Emotional Affair: My Interview on the Mud Stories Podcast


Heather and I recorded her podcast episode last Saturday. It was a last-minute one, although I’d been thinking on it for weeks. As I was sitting there, a message popped up from Jacque, would I, could I, record my emotional affair story for her podcast Mud Stories? Do you know, though, we’re 10 years out from this relationship and 4 since the eBook and I’ve never really spoken out loud about it publicly? But  without hesitation, I said yes. Remember how God has been calling me to speak this year? Yeah, this is one of those open doors I’m walking through.

I find God’s timing is impeccable to have both my sister and I sharing our stories of brokenness and redemption the same week in the same format. It’s a tale of two sisters, both with very different stories, but at the heart, finally learning that God is the lover of our souls.

It’s my prayer that even if we don’t share the same story, that you too would be beckoned by our Savior in your own mud, throw off whatever entangles you and fix your eyes on Him.

Listen right over here.

Divergent Movie Review


Looking for a short thumbs up or thumbs down?  Look no further: GO SEE IT!!!


For all the others looking for the scoop:

Y’all. I always know when my sister and I look at each other with cheesy grins throughout the entire movie that we have a fangirl-worthy movie on our hands.

So, forewarned, my inner fangirl is writing this.

So, the beginning of the movie was pretty strong on its own.  I thought the writers did a great job of setting up what was going on for those that hadn’t read the book.  Ashley Judd does a wonderful job of playing Tris’s mom. 




Surprise #1: “Fitz” from Scandal is Tris’s dad.  Clearly I didn’t do much fangirling research on this movie beforehand. When he showed up on stage, both of us were whisper-screaming, “FITZZZ!”  The only thing that would have made this even better is if Olivia Pope was involved somehow.

I loved watching the scene when Dauntless members were jumping off the train.  Very classic book moment realized on screen.



Watching Tris pick Dauntless, jump off her own train and then jump down into the Dauntless headquarters were all great moments too.


Four shows up. 


Holy cow, y’all.  This is the part my sister and I look at each other and were like, yeah, this movie just got good

Surprise #2: Four is Mr. Pamuk from Downton Abbey that died in Mary’s bed!



So, yeah, I’m not sure what to say here except that I’m a fan of Mr. Theo James. 




He’s quoted as saying, “I know I often get a job because of how I look. I hope that I keep the job because of how I act.” From someone in the audience, I’d say he does. I heard that Veronica Roth basically swooned when he auditioned.

He was the perfect amount of coolness to Tris and yet showed just the right amount of interest in her as their relationship progressed. It really was a journey watching them through the movie.  Even though their romance was actually secondary to the main plot, it was my favorite part. Of course.



The writers also did a great job of including pivotal moments like Christina getting nearly killed and Tris getting saved by Four from a band of guys trying to hurt her.

The Ferris wheel scene was just great too.



Oh, and all the dream stuff where you were watching their fears was just wonderful too.  I was wondering how they would handle that and they totally pulled it off.

One of my favorite scenes, though, is at the end when Tris and Four are saving the Dauntless members from killing Abnegation and Tris and Four face off.  Watching them fight after he couldn’t even stand watching her fight the others was equal parts riveting and terrible.

My only complaint about the movie is that Peter’s character didn’t come across the way I remembered him.  He was much less intimidating and more Class Clown looking than I-could-kill-you kind of looking and acting.

Beyond all that, I love the movie for the reason I loved the book—I like exploring the idea that we’re all a little of everything.  We don’t have to fit in a box (or faction) and we can be who we really are and that can, in fact, save us.  Watching all that through an action-packed, romantic lens…sigh…well, it just makes a girl happy.

I’ve rambled a bit here because it’s been two days since I saw the screening and I’m trying to remember all the wonderful things about it.  Suffice it to say that if you read the book, you should definitely check it out and I’ll be shocked if you’re not pleased.  If I think about it enough, I might even be willing to say that in some ways, I liked the movie better.  Yes, I’m gasping too.  Perhaps I couldn’t like it so much had I not the read book, but still.  I’m pleased with the movie to say the least.

Check it out this weekend and let me know what you think!



Oh and one other unrelated note…it’s now going to be super weird seeing Tris and her brother Caleb play Hazel and Augustus in Fault in Our Stars. Right?! At least we have until June to work that out.





I was provided two free tickets to the screening.  All opinions are my own.

All Divergent images: Photo: Jaap Buitendijk © 2013 Summit Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.

What I’m Into – January 2014

Oh, January.  What a month you were. 

What I Did


This month will forever be known as our “the wreck” month.  We spent so much time on Autotrader, Craigslist and in car lots trying to find our next car

We also worked hard to get our budget back on track after Christmas last year.  We broke out the envelopes, spreadsheets and watched our account like a hawk. 

Between me and Lexi both getting sick and several snow days, we also had a lot of family time together.  I realized yesterday afternoon when I went to get the kids from school that I had not been outside my house other than in our yard since early Monday evening!

If you missed the post earlier this week, I knocked out one of my yearly goals this week and finished my first sewing project.  I found I loved sewing and actually, finished my second project this week!  Emma helped me make her a nightgown that you see above.  This second project was actually much easier than the first!


What I Listened To



We’ve been entertaining ourselves with the Frozen soundtrack.  We love the song “In Summer” most.  We also have been singing “Do you Want to Build a Snowman?” during all the snow.  Did you hear there’s a sing-along version coming out this weekend?  We might just have to go.



What I Watched



I know I put this in last month’s post, but we continued to race through White Collar and finished up to Season 4 where Netflix stopped.  We continue to enjoy all of the characters on the show and it was great watching Neal evolve at least a little bit through the last seasons. The relationships are just fantastic–Peter and Elizabeth, Neal and Peter and Neal and Mozzie.  All such great dynamics.

I’m also watching Downton Abbey and Sherlock this month since they’ve been back. I had to rewatch Sherlock twice this week to get everything that happened.  So great.  Sherlock was especially good with the little boy at the beginning and his speech was just wonderful—in an awkward and terrible sort of way.

And here’s something I’m not watching: American Idol.  I got out of the habit with the judges last year and even though I hear good things about the panel this year, I’ve been enjoying all the time I have in the evenings without it.  If there’s a must-see performance, feel free to leave it over on the Facebook page for us all to enjoy.  Jen Hatmaker’s list last night about this season nearly has me convinced to check it out, though.


What I Read


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The Paris Wife – This might be the first book that I just could not get into and sent back to the library unfinished. I can’t pinpoint one thing in particular I didn’t like. All I know is I spent two weeks making such little progress I decided I didn’t care enough to finish and it was wasting my time.

The Secrets of Happy Families – I mentioned this book in yesterday’s post.  I think it’s a great book for anyone to check out.  While a lot of it deals with families with kids, I can see it being applicable to just about anyone.  We’re all a part of some type of family, yes?

Notes from a Blue Bike – This book by blogger Tsh Oxenreider comes out on Tuesday and I’ll be talking more about it next week.  In short, I’ll say it’s a good one.


So, that was my January.  What things have you been into?


Linked up with

Twitterature – April 2013



Joining with Modern Mrs. Darcy for her monthly link-up for books called Twitterature.  The premise of this link-up is to share short, casual reviews of books we’ve been reading.

The past month has been busy as I finished up several books in one weekend and then started my Growth Plan which includes a ton of books.

I’m trying out a new gallery plugin to display the reviews–let me know what you think!

Pursued by Jud Wilhite

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Whether you consider yourself a “good girl” always striving to be perfect or a “bad girl” with a past, Pursued will remind you God wants you just as you are. Marriage Resources

Good Monday morning to you! 

Very excited to share that my eBook Entangled is part of’s marriage package this week!


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If you’re not familiar, packages several related books each week and sells them at a fantastic rate.

This week’s marriage bundle includes 5 books worth over $30 for only $7.40!


Here’s what you’ll get this week:


15-Minute Marriage Makeover by Dustin Riechmann ($10)
15-Minute Marriage Makeover is more than an ebook; it’s a plan designed to refresh your relationship, add sizzle to your sex life and bring more happiness to your marriage. And all of that in just 15 minutes a day! The exercises in this book focus on the four pillars of  a happy marriage — communication, romance, intimacy and finances — with time management tools, mini lessons, couple time tasks and a weekly date night to review the topic of the week.

A Simple Marriage by Corey Allan, PhD ($4.99)
Written to help you experience more in your marriage, A Simple Marriage: The Path to Experiencing More in Marriage and Life is a compilation of Corey Allan’s experience as a husband and counselor. Not only will it show you the foundational principles that are present in every marriage and an understanding of where you currently are in your relationship, but it also provides the encouragement, tools and steps to help you invest in your marriage today, whether your spouse is interested in participating or not.

Stripped Down by Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo ($8.99)
In Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage, this husband and wife duo show you how to create a solid marital foundation by placing God at the center of your relationship, establish family boundaries, improve communication, make your bedroom a sanctuary, have fun together and much more. With frank conversation and practical advice, this ebook will walk you through exercises to invest in intimacy and reconnect with your spouse.

Entangled by Amy Bennett ($4.99)
Through her own story, Amy gives readers an honest, detailed look into an emotional affair and how God restored her marriage. In Entangled: Recognizing Your Emotional Affair & Restoring Your Marriage, she shares what an emotional affair looks like, how to get out of one and — most importantly — how God can meet your deepest need for the love you’re seeking.

The Husband’s Guide to Getting Lucky by Marla Taviano ($2.99)
With Marla’s candid humor, The Husband’s Guide to Getting Lucky clues guys in to the way their wives operate and gives them practical suggestions for being husbands their women want to make love to. Although it’s written primarily to men, The Husband’s Guide to Getting Lucky provides insight for both men and women into what makes their other half tick and how to achieve a fulfilling sex life.


Love this bundle, especially since I’m sharing it with my online buddy Marla Taviano.  Hi, Marla!

Praying these will be great resources for you and your spouse!


This post includes affiliate links but I’m glad to share this bundle affiliate link or not—I’m kinda partial ;)  Thanks for supporting Permission to Peruse!