You can do anything, but not everything.

Today’s post is a perfectly timed guest post from my online friend Jacey from The Balanced Wife.  This idea that you can do anything, but not everything is a lesson I’ve learned the hard way over many years.  Even this week, I had to say no to writing here as work and family priorities took over.  Jacey gives some very wise encouragement here I hope you take to heart.  Also, be sure to check out her brand new eBook on the same topic at the bottom!


You can do anything, but not everything

I sent a relieving but discouraging email last week. I had agreed to help someone with a small but recurring task, but I knew in my gut even as I said yes that I should have said no.

So there I was, a month later, backing out for reasons that were already true when I said yes in the first place.

This wasn’t the first time and won’t be the last I commit for all the wrong reasons: out of obligation, fear of letting someone down or fear of missing out.

Even when my reason is pure – a genuine desire to help – I find myself in the same position by denying the limits of my time, energy and attention.

Admitting my limitations feels like admitting weakness, but I’m learning that an inability to say no is itself a weakness that says more about my insecurity than my reliability.

To be available for what’s most important, we have to say no to what isn’t. It takes strength and wisdom to discern the difference.

What happens to overcommitted women who habitually pile on more? They lose their joy. They get stressed and anxious and stop attending to the truly essential.

They consult their checklists and their calendars and tie their self worth to checked boxes. They forget to thaw the chicken for dinner, forget to return the call that mattered, forget to pray.

They start resenting the commitments they’ve made to good things. Acts of service become a point of pride (the destructive kind) and identity. It all starts to feel too heavy, too burdensome.

They dream of a nap and a bubble bath but feel guilty indulging in either. They act from their own strength and inevitably burn out.

What do we do in the face of this losing cycle? Unfortunately, I’m afraid we perpetuate it. Instead of assuring that exhausted woman it’s okay to get off the treadmill, I find myself rushing to the first treadmill I can find. Surely if she can do it, I can too.

No more.

That thing that’s draining your energy? It’s okay to quit. Maybe it’s a book you are slogging through, or an exhausting friendship. It could be a failing business, a networking group, a gym membership, or an unreasonable client.

Maybe it’s even a good thing that needs to be set aside to make room for something better. Whatever that thing is, lay it down, because you can’t do it all.

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Here’s to saying no from strength instead of yes from weakness. Here’s to running the race He’s set before us and forsaking all others.


Jacey is passionate about living intentionally in the face of real demands, the unexpected, and human nature itself. Her book on the topic, Escaping Reaction; Embracing Intention, released this month. She writes about relationships, faith and personal growth at The Balanced Wife. She lives in Charleston, SC with her husband, Mike, and golden retriever, Jack.

What I Wore Wednesday 3.26.2014

After a six-week hiatus, I’m back!  Winter was wearing on me and I just could not take another minute of my winter wardrobe!  I was totally uninspired.  It’s been so nice to have some 60 and 70 degree weather around here lately so I can toss in some spring colors.

While we’re back to colder temperatures this week, I did capture one springy outfit this weekend.



I wore this outfit on Sunday.  My friend Dani and I had a wonderful girls day a few weekends ago and she picked out this scarf at Versona.

Amy Bennett’s pin on Pinterest.



Let’s connect so we can do this again  Like AmyJBennett on Facebook.  Follow me on Pinterest (where I post these inspirational pictures), Instagram (where you might sneak an early peek of an outfit) or Twitter.

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Divergent Movie Review


Looking for a short thumbs up or thumbs down?  Look no further: GO SEE IT!!!


For all the others looking for the scoop:

Y’all. I always know when my sister and I look at each other with cheesy grins throughout the entire movie that we have a fangirl-worthy movie on our hands.

So, forewarned, my inner fangirl is writing this.

So, the beginning of the movie was pretty strong on its own.  I thought the writers did a great job of setting up what was going on for those that hadn’t read the book.  Ashley Judd does a wonderful job of playing Tris’s mom. 




Surprise #1: “Fitz” from Scandal is Tris’s dad.  Clearly I didn’t do much fangirling research on this movie beforehand. When he showed up on stage, both of us were whisper-screaming, “FITZZZ!”  The only thing that would have made this even better is if Olivia Pope was involved somehow.

I loved watching the scene when Dauntless members were jumping off the train.  Very classic book moment realized on screen.



Watching Tris pick Dauntless, jump off her own train and then jump down into the Dauntless headquarters were all great moments too.


Four shows up. 


Holy cow, y’all.  This is the part my sister and I look at each other and were like, yeah, this movie just got good

Surprise #2: Four is Mr. Pamuk from Downton Abbey that died in Mary’s bed!



So, yeah, I’m not sure what to say here except that I’m a fan of Mr. Theo James. 




He’s quoted as saying, “I know I often get a job because of how I look. I hope that I keep the job because of how I act.” From someone in the audience, I’d say he does. I heard that Veronica Roth basically swooned when he auditioned.

He was the perfect amount of coolness to Tris and yet showed just the right amount of interest in her as their relationship progressed. It really was a journey watching them through the movie.  Even though their romance was actually secondary to the main plot, it was my favorite part. Of course.



The writers also did a great job of including pivotal moments like Christina getting nearly killed and Tris getting saved by Four from a band of guys trying to hurt her.

The Ferris wheel scene was just great too.



Oh, and all the dream stuff where you were watching their fears was just wonderful too.  I was wondering how they would handle that and they totally pulled it off.

One of my favorite scenes, though, is at the end when Tris and Four are saving the Dauntless members from killing Abnegation and Tris and Four face off.  Watching them fight after he couldn’t even stand watching her fight the others was equal parts riveting and terrible.

My only complaint about the movie is that Peter’s character didn’t come across the way I remembered him.  He was much less intimidating and more Class Clown looking than I-could-kill-you kind of looking and acting.

Beyond all that, I love the movie for the reason I loved the book—I like exploring the idea that we’re all a little of everything.  We don’t have to fit in a box (or faction) and we can be who we really are and that can, in fact, save us.  Watching all that through an action-packed, romantic lens…sigh…well, it just makes a girl happy.

I’ve rambled a bit here because it’s been two days since I saw the screening and I’m trying to remember all the wonderful things about it.  Suffice it to say that if you read the book, you should definitely check it out and I’ll be shocked if you’re not pleased.  If I think about it enough, I might even be willing to say that in some ways, I liked the movie better.  Yes, I’m gasping too.  Perhaps I couldn’t like it so much had I not the read book, but still.  I’m pleased with the movie to say the least.

Check it out this weekend and let me know what you think!



Oh and one other unrelated note…it’s now going to be super weird seeing Tris and her brother Caleb play Hazel and Augustus in Fault in Our Stars. Right?! At least we have until June to work that out.





I was provided two free tickets to the screening.  All opinions are my own.

All Divergent images: Photo: Jaap Buitendijk © 2013 Summit Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.

Priscilla Shirer LIVE Simulcast and TICKET GIVEAWAY

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If you can get to Rock Hill, SC on April 5th, you’re going to want to visit First Baptist Rock Hill for the Priscilla Shirer Simulcast.

In a preview, Priscilla said she’s going to talk about Elijah Experiences.  She wants us to learn how to be prepared to be women who can call down the fire of heaven!  Plus, Anthony Evans is leading worship.  It’s gonna be pretty fantastic.

Doors will open at 9am, begin at 10am and the day will conclude at 5:35pm.  Snacks and lunch by Southern Salads are provided and included in the $15 ticket price! 


And the best thing is, I have FIVE tickets to give away!

Just leave a comment on this post and tell me if you’ve been to a Priscilla Shirer simulcast before or if this will be your first time.

If you’d like to go ahead and secure tickets, head over here.

I’m trying my best to work out to be there for the day, so if you want someone to sit with, I’m your gal.  Let me know if you want to go together or grab your best gal pals to go.


If you’re not in the area, find a host here or for $20, you can watch in your PJs or with a small group on your own.  Either way, you’ll want to be part of the day.

Now, go comment and win a ticket!

Some St. Patrick’s Day Confetti


Good Monday morning and Happy St. Patrick’s Day!

I don’t know about you, but I desperately needed this weekend.  Work for me right now is a bit crazy to say the least and I really needed some time to decompress.  I had a beautiful weekend with friends, church family and best of all, my bed! Yay for Sunday afternoon naps!


I have a few things to random things to share and celebrate:

  1. I completed my second round AdvoCare’s herbal cleanse.  I can’t recommend it enough.  I lost a few pounds I had gained back over the holidays since I did it last time.  I feel like it reset some good eating habits and just like its name, I feel clean again.  It’s super affordable and you can do it without doing the full AdvoCare line if you don’t want to.
  2. Speaking of AdvoCare, I’ve been getting lots of searches for gluten-free options. I created a separate resource page for gluten-free Advocare info in case you have some questions.
  3. Along those healthy-ish lines, I finally got some accountability with my exercise.  I bought BeachBody’s T25 Gamma DVD program and joined an accountability group.  I just finished my first week and holy cow. I LOVE this program.  It’s made of 4 different 25 minute exercise programs that you rotate through.  I love the instructor Shaun T. and the minutes zoom by.  Scott is doing it with me so that helps on the accountability front too. I’ve even been getting up extra early and actually looking forward to the workout.  It’s crazy!
  4. And finally, I wanted to point you over to a guest post over at Mommy in Bonlee today. I’m recommending 4 books to change your mind, marriage, time and faith.  I wrote this last month and if I were to write it again, I certainly would now choose Battlefield of the Mind as one of the four.  Check out the rest and show Laresa some comment love over there!


I hope your St. Patrick’s Day is wonderful!


Christ beside me, Christ before me,
Christ behind me, Christ within me,
Christ beneath me, Christ above me.
– Saint Patrick

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