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In the Middle

February 11, 2013 by Amy 2 Comments

When my girls were younger, I was so intent on keeping them little.  Gone would be the little toes, wobbly legs and words like spaghetti pronounced “pah-sgetti”. 

I wanted time to stand still.

Both girls are now firmly entrenched in elementary school—somewhere in the middle between the famous preschool and teen days–and may I say, I love it so much?

Sure, the transition from preschool to teen years are still hard.  In fact, harder in some ways.  We are already dealing with tears and unexplained anger and eye-rolling with the best of them, but I love these days when they still think home is the best place, I still get called “Mommy” (although Lexi has been calling me “Mother” lately) and most upsets are still soothed by a good hug. 

And yet, they are forming opinions about how others act and care when someone is wronged, they have their own opinions on what to wear and eat and they know how to fix their own bowl of cereal. 

It’s a mostly-sweet-sometimes-frustrating period of time that I’m savoring.

Girls piled up in my living room floor are weekend musts.

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Crafts are a given.

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And yes, most days you’ll find Lexi watching something on Netflix.

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Dancing is constant, whether it be courtesy of Just Dance or a quickly choreographed dance to a Spotify song.

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Books are devoured on the regular.

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And did I mention crafts?

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They still love trampoline time with Daddy.

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And some days are spent doing things I have no part of like Safety Patrol.

 

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But those independent activities are ones I’m most proud of.  She’s confident enough to go out and do something brave and helpful.

 

We’re in the middle and I love it.

Filed Under: children

3 Ways to Have a Stellar Day

January 22, 2013 by Amy 5 Comments

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Days like yesterday don’t happen often in the dead-center of winter, but yesterday? Was stellar.

And the best part is I think you could have one too.

Take a Risk

For several months, perhaps years, I’ve been reading and listening to training on this whole blogging business. Every single one recommended guest blogging.

I knew it was the way to go but Inadequate told me I wasn’t good enough–I didn’t deserve to be published elsewhere. It was a risk to me to send in the guest post to MoneySavingMom.com that published yesterday. But the risk paid off.

And I can’t tell you what a good day that made. Risks don’t always pay off but when they do? Stellar.

Where do you need to take a risk? A conversation? Application? Do it! It will make for a stellar day!

Be Creative

Yesterday morning the girls and I decided to make some homemade play-doh. I did the making and yes, even the playing.

What is it about homemade things that provide so much satisfaction? Perhaps because God is quite creative and he put that inside us too. When we tap into that, it feels right and good and dare I say, sometimes stellar.

Get Active

Scott and I don’t get many days off together so yesterday when we were, I was determined to do something as a family.

We landed on laser tag and bowling. And let me say, running through the dark with fake guns with your 10 year old, chasing down your husband and 8 year old? Makes for a stellar day.

How can you get active? Maybe you need to sign up for that 5K or pick up your dusty tennis racket.

And as a bonus tip, order a StitchFix and perhaps they’ll tell you they shipped it on the same day as your other stellar-ness is happening, making your stellar day downright giggly.

What makes your days stellar?

Filed Under: children, friends and/or family, what i did today

Little Black Dress

January 18, 2013 by Amy 5 Comments

Write on “Cherished” for 5 minutes…no editing, no over thinking, no backtracking.

She used her math to calculate the costs.  “$5.50 and shipping is $2.00.  That is $7.50 and I will have…$4 left.” I clicked the Buy It Now button on the black strapless sequined Barbie number and we waited.

I got home late last evening from a blustery evening out and checked the mail on the way in.  A squishy envelope told me it had arrived and I hoped she hadn’t fallen asleep yet so I could see her wide eyes and smile.

She wasn’t and I got to see the celebration and anticipation of a little black dress.

As we woke this morning, disappointed at the black ice instead of white snow, she surprised her Barbie with a new dress.  But disappointment brought her sagging into my office complaining because it was too big.

“Hang on, we’ll fix it. Sometimes in fashion you just have to make-do.  You never know what you’ll have to use.  I think this bobby pin will work just fine.”

I slipped the bobby pin over the folds of the back of the little black number, turned her around and we both beemed when it stayed.

Little girl mom moments.  Cherished.

Filed Under: children, Five Minute Friday

How to Finally Quit Fearing

January 11, 2013 by Amy 7 Comments

Write on “Dive” for 5 minutes…no editing, no over thinking, no backtracking.

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One of my dreams for you, my dear daughters, is that you dive–dive with abandon and joy and courage from whatever platform you may be standing on.  Not with baby steps to the end and a falling off, hoping that the jump doesn’t fail but a running from the start, no-second-guessing, free-falling dive.

I asked you to fly with me.  Literally, to take a little trip. 

You started with your baby steps.  “Do we really have to go?”  “It’s not like riding in a car! It’s in the air"!”  “What if the plane falls from the sky, mother?”  My heart fell.  Run, child, run!  No need to fear!  If you’d only let go, you would laugh with abandon and fly without fear. 

But baby steps and more baby steps.  Weeks and weeks of baby steps on the diving board and still no sign of that diving I dream for you.

I finally ask myself why I dive.  Why is it that I’m able to run from the back of the board and dive without fear?

Aha, the answer is always the same.

I assumed that she has learned that it’s always the same, but no, I need to remind her, no teach her, the answer—the key to learning to dive, or fly, as it were without fear.

“You do know, dear daughter, that the very worst case scenario is that we go get to meet Jesus?  That is the worst that can happen.”

She giggles because how funny that sounds.

“Yes, daughter, that’s what I mean.  If the worse case scenario is actually the best case scenario after all, you have no need to fear.”

And she gets it.  I can see it in her eyes she’s backing up from the baby steps, starting over at the beginning of the board and planning her run to the dive at the end.

It’s the same answer for all of us when we’re too afraid to dive isn’t it?

Jesus is waiting at the end of our worse-case scenario.  No matter what we’re asked to do, no matter how badly we fail or fall or hurt or even die, Jesus will be there waiting to meet us.

 

Filed Under: children, Five Minute Friday, spiritual stuff

50 Movies to Watch With Your Family

January 8, 2013 by Amy 6 Comments

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Now that Emma and Lexi are 8 and 10, they’re showing more and more interest in movies that are like “real movies.”  A few weeks ago Lori Wilhite of Leading and Loving It asked for recommendations on movies to watch with her family on her Facebook page.  Her criteria was no animation and no talking animals–perfect for us.

Her followers jumped right in and gave a ton of great suggestions, some we’ve seen as a family and others I haven’t even heard the name.  Some are recent and some have been around since before I was born.  I thought I’d compile, add some of our favorites and share with you.

As with all movie viewing with your family, please pay attention to the rating, description and reviews and decide appropriateness for your own kids.  PluggedIn.com is a great resource.

And in no particular order, here are 50 movies to check out with your family:

1. August Rush
2. We Bought a Zoo
3. Joyful Noise
4. Parent Trap
5. The Ultimate Gift
6. Dolphin’s Tale
7. The Odd Life of Timothy Green
8. Soul Surfer
9. Bedtime Stories
10. Cool Runnings
11. Jumanji
12. The Boy Who Could Fly
13. Sand Lot
14. Sky High
15. Harry Potter
16. Richie Rich
17. My Girl
18. Nim’s Island
19. Blue Butterfly
20. Whale Rider
21. The Secret of Roan Inish
22. Stand By Me
23. Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Emporium
24. Percy Jackson and the Lightning Thief
25. Nanny McPhee 
26. Honey, I Shrunk the Kids
27. Penelope
28. Freaky Friday
29. Night at the Museum
30. National Treasure
31. Where the Red Fern Grows
32. Nancy Drew
33. Ramona and Beezus
34. Cheaper by the Dozen
35. Pacifier
36. Matilda
37. Secondhand Lions
38. School of Rock
39. Big Miracle
40. Journey 2
41. Swiss Family Robinson
42. Princess Bride
43. A League of Their Own
44. Cop and a Half
45. Diary of a Wimpy Kid
46. Christmas Lodge
47. Princess Protection Program
48. Hugo
49. Summer Eleven
50. Hook

Which have you seen?  What would add?

Filed Under: children, movies

The Suite Life of Emma and Lexi

January 7, 2013 by Amy 3 Comments

One place you should know that I come from is a big youth group from the 90’s.  And one result of that is I have loved DCTalk for oh, about 20 years. More importantly, I have come to love TobyMac who has since gone solo—quite successfully, I might add.

My girls have caught the bug for TobyMac’s music because *ahem* I might play it a lot at my desk. The cool thing about Toby is that he really, really loves Jesus.  In fact, one of lyrics that still follows him around is from DCTalk’s “Jesus Freak”. 

Several years back another Christian band NewSong started The Winter Jam Tour, a Christian concert targeted at all those youth groups. For as long as I can remember, TobyMac has been involved and often as the headliner. 

Winter Jam was scheduled for Charlotte this past weekend.  I really, really wanted to go myself and Lexi really, really wanted to go hear TobyMac. She has a special affinity for his latest radio hit, “Me Without You”.  It’s a fantastic upbeat song with great lyrics.

The problem with going to Winter Jam is that they don’t sell tickets.  You have to wait in line all day outside the arena.  If you manage to get in, it’s just $10 at the door.  Youth groups from all over the Carolinas come and sit outside together.  I’m talking 20,000 people.

Once you get in, it’s another hour until the show starts and THEN the whole show is over 4 hours long.  TobyMac is the last one to sing.  Add in parking logistics and cost and you can see why I decided taking Emma and Lexi was just not feasible. 

 

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I probably could have forced the issue but it really wouldn’t have been pleasant.  I could have gone myself and gotten a babysitter but really, I wanted to go more for Lexi than myself.  Although, trust me, I wanted to go too.

Fast forward to Saturday afternoon of the concert about 2pm—you know, when all those 20,000 people are already in line—and my sister and I both get a message from a friend we’ve known since grade school, but haven’t seen in YEARS, saying her company owns a suite and they have several unused tickets—with a parking pass–do we want them? 

Sign. me. up.

The only hiccup to the plan was that I had to get Lexi early from a birthday party scheduled to end at 8pm and we were late but ya’ll…every single worry about going was solved. 

I didn’t have to worry about parking because we had the pass. 

I didn’t have to worry about being late because they were reserved seats.  

We didn’t have to wait AT ALL with the kids. 

I didn’t have to pay for a ton of snacks over all those hours because they were provided in the suite. 

We had a large, comfortable space in case the kids got sleepy—which they did. 

It was just the best. ever. 

I’ve gone to a concert in a suite before but I don’t know, I just didn’t appreciate it as much as I did with kids this time.  As you can see, the kids settled in just fine.

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Poor thing, Lexi just about fell asleep during TobyMac’s set but you better believe when we heard the beginning of “Me Without You”, we were up dancing and singing along.  Turns out it was the very. last. song. of the night.  Being in the same room with TobyMac singing, a beat that you can feel, not just hear, 20,000 people singing along and your little girl in your arms singing with you?  The best ever.

I’ve heard that upwards of 2,000 people didn’t get in.  I honestly feel like crap I couldn’t invite the ones I knew into our suite.  All I know is to be SO GRATEFUL for what was given to us.  I can’t help but think once again God saw the desires of not just my heart, but Lexi’s little heart (and probably my sister’s too), and made it happen.  Jenny, thank you again so much for being part of that.  Great memories and SO THANKFUL.

Filed Under: children, music, spiritual stuff Tagged With: winterjam

The Least I Could Do

January 4, 2013 by Amy Leave a Comment

Do you have one of those stories in your family where it gets told over and over and you laugh every single time?

Everyone loves to laugh about the time I woke up at 3am, got ready for school and then tried to make everyone else do the same, insisting we were all going to be late.  Or the time I was complaining about a knife not working until my mom pointed out I was using the wrong side.  What?  The ones with the pointy end are confusing sometimes.

Our family experienced one of those times this past Christmas. 

Two weeks before Christmas, Emma asked me if she could have some money to go buy me, Scott and Lexi some Christmas presents just from her–just something small, maybe $5-10 a piece.  I said yes and then she got the idea to ask my sister to take her that weekend when we were going to be in Pennsylvania the weekend before Christmas to visit with family.  My sister, of course, was thrilled to take her shopping.

Saturday morning came along and we decided that we would all go to town.  The kids would go with my sister and grandmother to a store and pick out gifts while Scott and I did a little shopping of our own in another store. 

On the way, Lexi decided that she wanted to buy a gift for our hosts.  She said, “It’s the least we could do.”  I’ve written about the couple we stay with before and she was right, we needed to do something a little extra in thanks.

So we dropped the kids off at a bargain store and I wished them all well thinking it could be quite the shopping trip.  It wasn’t 20 minutes or so though and we got the call to come pick them back up.  They were done.  And with money to spare.  Wow, they must have gotten some good deals, I thought.

After a not-so-quick stop at CVS to pick up some picture prints needed for gifts, we all decided to eat at the mall.  The kids got Chick-fil-a and I got a smoothie from Orange Julius. 

So we’re all eating and my sister says, “Just to warn you, they picked out a candle for Mike and Deanna.  It’s kind of small because the scent they really wanted was out in the larger sizes.”

And in the sarcastic way sisters are, I said, “So, what, we basically bought them a tea light for Christmas?  Could you not, you know, have managed that a little better?”

We start laughing because I know we’re both starting to picture the scene when we express our unending gratitude with a berry scented tea light.

Then Lexi sets her chicken nugget down, throws her arms up wide, her head back and earnestly says, “It’s the LEAST we could do!”

And then Heather and I look at each other and realize the irony of it.  Most people say “It’s the least I could do” when they do something that’s not so small but want to be humble about it. But no, this truly was the very least we could do. 

We’re belly laughing, but in the silent way where your whole body is shaking, you’re smiling and yet not making a sound because Lexi doesn’t get what she just said.  I’m almost certain smell is one of her love languages.  In her little heart, she’d picked out the perfect scented candle and she can’t wait for them to smell it.  Ah, it was such a great moment.

Our family has now started saying, “It’s the LEAST I could do,” in reply to any thanks and always with a belly laugh.

And for those wondering, yes, we did buy them something else.  But I’m pretty sure it’s the candle they’ll remember.

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Tips for Traveling Well with Kids

December 14, 2012 by Amy Leave a Comment

As I’m writing this we’re traveling up the East Coast on I-77 for a weekend with family. We’ll spend more than 8 hours on the road each way.

If my guess is right, I’ve traveled this same path about 150 times. And no, that is not an exaggeration. We’ve been traveling to see family multiple times a year for 31 years now. Add in annual summer vacations and that’s a lot of road trip hours!

I want to share a few actions we take to make our trip as tear and stress-free with kids as possible.

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Set New Expectations

You might be able to beat your GPS when it’s just you and your spouse, but just let go of that expectation with kids.

When I was still nursing, we had to build in time for extra feedings. When the girls were toddlers, we had to build in play time at McDonald’s. Now that the kids are a little older, it’s not quite as time consuming, but we still can’t do things like zoom through drive thrus only. They really need the time to burn energy. Cracker Barrel is one of our favorites to keep kids entertained while we wait for food.

Avoid Late Afternoon

Kids are at their worst in late afternoon. Either travel early or late. We either leave by 7am or wait until 5 or 6pm and let them sleep most of the way.

While some families find a lot of success with night traveling, we are all at our best first thing in the morning.

Rent Redbox

Taking movies are probably a no-brainer but you might not think to rent Redbox since you’re not home to return them. It’s likely, though, you’ll either pass one on your trip or your destination has one. We often return a movie and get a new one along the way.

Look, I’m all for limiting screen time at home, but this is not the time to be conservative. We often rent at least 4 movies. For just $5 the kids finally get to see the movies they ask about every stinkin’ time you pass a Redbox and that’s LOTS of quiet time on a long road trip.

Buy a Power Converter

Skip the car chargers and go straight for a power converter. You can plug in your laptop, DVD player and your phones.

You don’t have to keep up with the car chargers or take turns between charging devices.

Make Use of Your Printer

Again, this is not a time to be conservative. We let the kids print a ton of coloring pages. We also print the license tag game and car scavenger hunt free printables. Google printable car games and you’ll find plenty of resources.

Pack Healthy Snacks

While I recommend being liberal with screen time and printables, road trips are not the place to let sugar roam free.

My kids, like most, are really sensitive to sugar so this is not the time we eat the Christmas treats. Every once in awhile we let them get treats at a gas station but its definitely not the norm to stock up on candy.

Use it as Learning Time

Traveling is a great time to learn maps, following directions and geography! Get the map out and point out states you’re traveling trough or ones you spot in the license tag game. If you have a smart phone, map the trip and let the kids follow the little blue circle. It will also cut down on the “Are we there yet?” questions!

Realize the Drive is a Destination

And finally, don’t be in such a rush to get there, you forget that the drive is part of the trip. Often, you’ll be passing through states the kids won’t otherwise see.

Be sure to look around and take in the new environments as you go. We love to point out the mountains, barns and fields of farm animals we don’t normally see in the suburbs of the Carolinas

Hope that helps those of you traveling with kids for the holidays! Have any tips to add?

Filed Under: children

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